tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10838182.post7363932937378693862..comments2023-10-31T05:56:45.788-07:00Comments on LutheranChik's "L" Word Diary: Tales of the Lovelorn; Or Christians Behaving BadlyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10838182.post-1162109149537875822009-07-01T17:03:21.443-07:002009-07-01T17:03:21.443-07:00yes, I feel sad for your friend. I've always ...yes, I feel sad for your friend. I've always liked the fact that our church stuck to weekly confession, where are lot of churches are getting away from it, because, you know, confessing your sins is a downer, and people don't like to be called "sinners." To me, confessing is saying, "I have a problem." But maybe people can do it every week without ever really realizing how it applies to them personallly.Diane M. Rothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07749136181846671327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10838182.post-42454569186381592312009-06-23T05:03:47.412-07:002009-06-23T05:03:47.412-07:00Narcissistic personality disorder may be at work h...Narcissistic personality disorder may be at work here as well -- someone who sees everyone and everything as simply an extension of herself, who gets angry when one of these "things" doesn't adequately do her bidding.LutheranChikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02685566332651377907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10838182.post-44344603680986253502009-06-23T04:43:56.405-07:002009-06-23T04:43:56.405-07:00In my experience these people use the sermon and r...In my experience these people use the sermon and readings as opportunities to collect sticks to beat others with and can sit through what ought to be the most obvious wakeup calls (motes and beams, depart I never knew you etc) with perfect equanimity. Then there are the ones who are drifting off thinking of what to have for dinner and what on earth Maisie was thinking when she wore that dress this morning.Jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10838182.post-58152217418251305642009-06-22T16:20:09.807-07:002009-06-22T16:20:09.807-07:00and then you have to make ammends....the steps hol...and then you have to make ammends....the steps hold people accountable to past, present, and future, behavior...good stuff for everyone, not just those in recovery.....<br /><br />sigh. so very sad for your friend and those involved in this situation, and others like it.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10838182.post-817783300514073952009-06-22T14:07:42.407-07:002009-06-22T14:07:42.407-07:00I agree about everything--too many people sit in p...I agree about everything--too many people sit in pews and don't live day-to-day with the knowledge of the Spirit--no conviction seems to hit them. Sometimes I've felt like this is the drawback of sticking to lectionary, but then there are so many positives too.<br /><br />And I do think we are supposed to deal with people and hold them accountable when we belong to their family but that is definitely not done much. Sometimes I wish everyone had a personal coach--<br /><br />So sorry for your friend. It just takes years to find it in ourselves to forgive--that has been something God has helped me do on occasion and what a relief. The best revenge is living a happy life and not even noticing that person on the radar anymore.angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10451988954537329260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10838182.post-48815387675413631592009-06-22T12:59:07.168-07:002009-06-22T12:59:07.168-07:00And because this ex-friend is not a part of our ow...And because this ex-friend is not a part of our own circle of friends, we're not in a position to confront her about her behavior and its consequences for the people around her, most especially her young kids. <br /><br />I know infidelity, along with abuse, are my two relational lines in the sand; but constant belittling and controlling -- this individual made our friend make actual appointments to see her, then ducked out half the time (which sent us major danger-Will-Robinson signals), got upset when our friend didn't answer the phone, pooh-poohed my friend's hobbies and interests and made it clear that she thought she was her intellectual superior...just a lot of sick, dysfunctional behavior going on. And when people are very lonely they may put up with this for awhile. But it's not right. And at some point you wonder, when this individual was sitting in church Sunday after Sunday, going through the corporate Confession, hearing the lessons and the sermons...what was she hearing, really?LutheranChikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02685566332651377907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10838182.post-33189707765739742102009-06-22T08:11:56.148-07:002009-06-22T08:11:56.148-07:00You don't know you have a problem if you are d...You don't know you have a problem if you are dense or if nobody has told you you have a problem. Many people don't see that if they continue to have problems with others, that the common denominator is them. Duh, right. No, not so. And if they go to counseling, the counselor may see things, but not everything, because that person only reveals so much. I think that people just hope believing overcomes a lot of sh__ from the past. It doesn't.LoieJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01977264499770654307noreply@blogger.com